Society is fast becoming some huge-ass meteorite full of materialistic values, full of crap and full of people who will do anything to get somewhere they think they 'deserve' to be or in some status quo.
I'm not here to be negative at all. In contrast, I'm here to hopefully help you hold your head up high when you have those days where you feel like you're nothing more than the dirt that people kick to the side of the curb. For the days where you feel like noone's worth looking into your eyes. We all have those days, and for those of you who have found a life where every single day makes you feel so much love and feel like a million dollars - I SALUTE YOU. Really.
I'm here to tell you that it's OKAY to like yourself. Heck, it's okay to even LOVE YOURSELF. Ever since the time in grade school where we stressed about how short our skirts were or stressed about the big-ass pimple on our forehead... we've had those days or those periods of time where you feel so disgusted with yourself for whatever reason. I think it's more of a girl thing but I'm sure guys feel it more in recent times, too!
But we're ONLY human, and it's something I always remind myself. And you know what? When the going get's tough, then the tough better get going! (Haha I know, I know.. cliche emily =))
The people who love or the people who matter to us and vice versa... they're going to know that you're not perfect and that you're going to make mistakes - more importantly, they'll be focusing on the things you do right rather than the other way around. Sure, sometimes you don't make the smartest of choices that they aren't going to like but that's life and sometimes that's how the cookie crumbles. (mmm i'm craving some subway cookies right about now!)
We all go through life addressing problem areas we need to overcome, seeing the bad habits we've got to break - but it's okay! You don't have to go around beating yourself up at all or constantly feeling under the weather. Just pick yourself up and start again.. as hard as it may be, they will always be there for you, to support you and help make things right again - irregardless of any other factors. After all, noone on this earth is perfect - we all have areas in which we need to improve.
You must learn to accept yourself - ALL OF YOU! The flaws, imperfections and all. Most people go around at some point in their life (I'm a victim of this!) speaking and thinking negatively about themselves. ALL THE TIME. They feel guilty, inferior, insecure, ugly, too something, too not something.. the list goes on! But the thing is, if you can't love yourself - how can you love others and let others love you? I'm not saying I've found the answer or the right way to go about it, but I've at least had the courage to step up to the stage in my mind where I'm the most vulnerable to other people - to say, hey... THIS is me. We need to give ourselves a break and not be so critical and harsh to ourselves when we don't live up to our own unrealistic expectations. (And trust me, I've had SOOO many unrealistic expectations of myself to live up to it was hard to let people in and to trust them)
And the funny thing about life is that shit just keeps coming at you, whether you like it or not. I guess, it's how you deal with it - and I've learnt that. And I'm still learning. You may be sitting there thinking about a few major areas in your life you'd like to change or be better at - for instance you might be thinking about the temper problem you have, or the high-emotional factor, or simply breaking a bad habit (like biting my lips for me!). So you're sitting there thinking about the things you want to change and perhaps you're changing slash changed them already - but life is a funny bunny, it's gonna shed some light on some other area you need to work on. Doesn't it excite you? It's kinda silly but for me, it excites me that by the time I'm 120 years of age, I will have hopefully become an improved version of myself at present times infinity and beyond. Just see yourself as a work in progress.
If you constantly berate yourself or go round with a bad attitude refusing to accept yourself for ALL of which you are.. then you're gonna live your whole life feeling BAD, MISERABLE, ANGRY, BITTER - etc. Where's the fun in that? Where's the love in that? Where's the joy in that? Sure, there shouldn't be a lax attitude towards mistakes or living a bad life - but you should at least strive to do your best. and most importantly, strive to make things right. If the people around you who mean the most to you accept you and approve of you - then why can't you do that for yourself? This is a question i've asked myself on many occasions...and just like it's human to not be perfect, it's also a human thing to doubt once in awhile. But the thing is, the people who matter the most to you or the people who think you matter the most to them (you get the point) will love you unconditionally. You don't have to prove yourself to be something other than yourself and you don't have to live in shame or hide your flaws. They will eventually come out.
Sometimes we stumble and fall. Sometimes we fall so hard. But like one of my fave lines of a song goes - "falling down aint falling down if you don't cry when you hit the floor." But if you have the will and your heart is in the right place to get up and try again - to live the best life you possibly can and to love yourself and others with all you've got - then you're in the right place :)
I'm sure some may disagree with what I've said above.. but this is just my own opinion, my own experience and my own lessons learnt over the last 21 soon to be going onto 22 years. Maybe some of you have learnt this lesson many years before I did, or maybe some are still struggling with 'negative self-talk'. But just know this - you're never too old to start learning. And most importantly of all - it's NEVER TOO LATE.
So no matter how you're feeling - put on some great music, get happy, laugh, smile and most importantly LOVE ALWAYS. Whether it be yourself or others.
"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." - DR SEUSS! :)
Love and love yourself always,
I've been in love with this singer/song-writer for years now...
love love loveee this song :)
SOME OTH QUOTES cos i'm just super psyched for the new episode coming out after the weekend!!! :)
"...if you're always looking for reasons not to be with somebody, well you'll always find them, and I guess at some point you should let go and give your heart what it deserves."
"Just promise me one thing, promise me that when you pick the boy you're really going to be with, that he'll be someone who respects you and treats you well. And, it's someone who makes your heart race and that he's someone you love because of what he is, not what he does. Because, that's how I felt about your mother, and that’s how I want you to feel one day. Use your head and follow your heart."
"Just like you can't prove love with a test. I mean, this is just a score on a sheet of paper. Sure, Haley and I have our differences, but this test doesn't show how hard we’ve worked to keep this relationship together, or that I can’t stand it when we're apart, or that every time I look at her I know that I'm gonna be with her for the rest of my life. We love each other father, no test is going to show that.”